Islamic Tarbiyyah of Children

Abdul Wahid Hamid
from Islam: The Natural Way

In the tarbiyyah of children, you should remember that children often learn from example. The proper conduct and example of parents are crucial in the upbringing of children.

Parents who expect their children to be disciplined and to work hard must must themselves be disciplined and work hard. Parents who expect their children to be truthful must not be in the habit of telling liew.

Also, it is important to remember that the treatment given to children in the early years of their life can have far-reaching effects on their mental and emotional state later on in life.

In the tarbiyyah of children, you should try to remember that:

~ Children should be happy and cheerful. And have a zest for life and living. They should be able to feel something of the carefree joy and excitement of growing up, especially before they are mukallaf. They should not be battered and terrorised.
~ They should be trained to grow up with the attitudes and habits, the adab or etiquette of Islam:
"Be generous, kind and noble to your children and make their habits and manners good and beautiful (Akrimuu awlaadakum was ahsinuu adabahum),"
said the noble Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam).

Among the virtues and habits they should develop are:

->   the habit of being honest and truthful;
->   the habit of being gentle and polite â€" for according to the noble Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam), "Gentleness adorns everything" â€" without being timid, afraid and cowed down;
->   the habit of being helpful and considerate without being loutish in their behaviour to others;
->   the habit of being clean and neat and tidy, of looking after their personal hygiene and appearance.

Children need to develop the adab or the etiquette of Islam: when and how to greet; how to speak, sit, eat, and how to perform natural functions like personal toilet in the clean and efficient manner as taught by the beloved Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam); to do everything in the manner, time and place that is appropriate for it, for example: to be reverent in salat, attentive in class, robust and full of zeal in play.

Children need to develop physical fitness and skills, to be strong and courageous. The Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam) recommended that children be taught horse-riding, swimming and archery.

One Muslim ruler once suggested that his child be taught swimming before reading or writing on the grounds that someone else may read and write for him but no one can swim for him!

From the noble Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam)â€™s recommendations, we see that children need to lead an active outdoor life and be proficient in some of the martial arts. They should have the stamina for demanding play and demanding work. This implies at least that they should be adequately fed.

Children need to develop a thirst for knowledge, beneficial knowledge â€" through listening, observation, reading, interacting with others. It is recommended that children be taught from an early age to recite and read the Qurâ€™an and develop a love for it. At an early age, they have the capacity to memorise it and it is common for many children and youths to memorise the whole or large parts of the Qurâ€™an.
From the age of seven, the Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam) recommended that children should get in the habit of performing salat and by the age of ten they should be required to do so regularly.

Children need to develop skills and to be creative and inventive. They should be trained from an early age to take on responsibilities, to organise and take initiative rather than be timid and submissive. They should be able to spend their time usefully and profitably.

They need to develop skills that would fit them for contemporary living and for the particular society in which they live. This may involve anything â€" from the skills of running an efficient and creative home to the skills that would enable them to earn a living and help them in the process of tarbiyyah when their turn comes. Give a person a fish and you feed just one person; teach a person to fish and he can feed hundreds, says an apt Chinese proverb.

Above all, correct tarbiyyah should ensure that children develop a love for Islam, a love for Allah and His Prophet (sallAllahu alayhi wasallam) and that they develop a feeling of pride in being Muslim and a willingness to strive for the good of others.

They need to realize the benefits of Islam, the foundations on which it is based and their need for Islam. They need to value Islam and live by Islamic values.

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